What Makes People Happy? Ten Key Trends
London, UK - 3rd September 2012, 11:20 GMT
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What's happiness? Does it really exist? Can happiness last? How does one become happy? How many people do you know that are really happy? What are the habits of happy people and the principles that might be at the root of their happiness? We asked ATCA 5000 distinguished members over the last several months and here are some of the results that we distilled from those one-to-one conversations around the world.
What makes people happy?
1. Happy people say YES more than they say NO
Happy people always seem to be doing something new and interesting. When invitations come their way, happy people have cultivated the habit of saying yes. The more they say yes, the more opportunities are presented to them.
2. Happy people LAUGH, JOKE and have a SENSE OF HUMOUR
Happiness can come in the form of a quiet smile yet it is bound to burst out into a laugh occasionally. Happy people appear to appreciate the lighter side of life. They donít take themselves or anything else too seriously. They laugh often and wholeheartedly. They joke, laugh about every little thing and make themselves the butt of their jokes more often than anybody else. Happy people are easily amused.
3. Happy people say THANK YOU! They Live with a Feeling of GRATITUDE
Happy people have the habit of saying thank you: a regular gratitude practice that helps them to make note of their blessings and what others have done for them. Other happy people are just constantly saying thank you for small gifts, favours, well wishes or compliments. They may give thanks before every meal or send you texts after every lunch or dinner engagement. When they focus on actually feeling true gratitude, they are already open and fluid in regard to receiving and welcoming absolutely new perspectives. Instead of slipping into negative thinking about what they donít have, happy people appear to stay positive in regard to what they do have. They constantly recognise the blessings and gifts in their lives. Another good reason for people to be grateful and focus on their blessings is that all it takes is three negative thoughts in a row before that triggers a "fight-or-flight" chemical response in most human beings.
4. Happy people SPEAK WELL of OTHERS more often than not
It is not a coincidence that happy people also tend to be remarkably polite, considerate, punctual and non-judgemental. Does being nice feel better than being nasty? Indulging in negative gossip with a friend or work colleague may be fun for a little while, but in the end the result can be a residue of resentment and guilt. All the remarkably happy people ATCA 5000 distinguished members have cited appear constantly to say positive things about other people behind their back. They also want to make their colleagues a part of their lives and want them to meet their friends and loved ones including their families.
5. Happy people LISTEN
The favourite people of ATCA 5000 distinguished members appear to be very good listeners. They donít rush to offer judgment or help and they might not even tell their colleagues that they know exactly how they feel Ė especially if they donít! They just listen, openly without any assumptions. This gift-of-listening that they give to their friends and work colleagues also seems to contribute to their own happiness. It would appear that the best thing we can all do to enrich our own life and our relationships is to listen more closely and to be attentive more often. Taking the time to listen helps us also to learn and to evolve our own understanding of this world and the people around us. It keeps our mind open to wisdom and to new perspectives at all times. When we focus on deep listening, we automatically take our own ego out of the equation and are less likely to be hurt or offended by what we hear.
6. Happy people BELIEVE IN SOMETHING and they LET GO OF CONTROL
ATCA 5000 distinguished members -- now from more than 150 countries around the world -- come from various religious denominations and belief systems, including some who are agnostics or atheists. It doesnít seem to matter exactly what happy people believe in as much as they believe in something, someone or a vision which is greater than themselves. That might be God, or a Universe, or Nature, or Quantum Physics, or Science or an invisible link between all of humanity. Maybe having faith in a higher power helps people to let go of their own illusions or delusions of control, or maybe it just makes them feel more connected to their fellow man and other beings. For many, faith in God and belief in a Universe that connects all of us gives them the courage of their convictions along with comfort and peace.
7. Happy people ACCEPT IMPERFECTIONS and are willing to FORGIVE and MOVE ON
The more that ATCA 5000 distinguished members thought about the happy people they know, the more they realised that no one was flawless in their day-to-day execution of life. They didnít all get up early or exercise every day. Some of the happy people they knew were organised and some of them embraced the art of living with total chaos! Even if they are constantly working on improving something, happy people acknowledge and accept that perfection is not the goal. They accept their own quirks and the weaknesses of others, and they are therefore willing to forgive and sometimes remember without bitterness.
8. Happy people are of SERVICE to OTHERS and have POSITIVE EXPECTATIONS
Many happy people realise that true happiness comes from making someone happy and that makes them happy too. It just feels good to make others feel good! Like the golden rule says, ďDo unto others as you would have them do unto you.Ē If we can truly express empathy and help give people what they desire, it opens up the door to receiving as well. If people donít have very high expectations they canít be disappointed, and negative expectations can end up becoming self-fulfilling prophecies. Happy people are full of hope.
9. Happy people are detached from the APPROVAL of OTHERS
Living life seeking popularity and favour can sometimes lead to suffering. Happy people know how to follow their own hearts without worrying too much about what other people might think of them. They recognise that they canít please everyone, and trying to do so makes most happy people doubt their abilities and compromises their self-confidence, likeability and authenticity.
10. Happy people actively focus on HEALTH, EXERCISE and WORK-LIFE BALANCE
Eating healthily provides our bodies with the proper amino acids and nutrients to be happy, and exercise releases endorphins which give us a happy feeling. Most happy people eat healthy food and build meditation or contemplation as well as exercise regimes into their daily or weekly schedule.
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